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marriage blues

So i got married, resigned my job, left a lucrative career option, relocated to a different city( in a different time zone!!!) and started keeping house. i would eventually want to work but first i have to "settle the house ''. till last week i was getting up in the morning to get dressed and go to office. now i get up and wonder if i should change the pillow covers. whats wrong with that?? it all comes with the territory. i wanted to get married after all.every morning during the course of some work i sit back and cry for an hour. i feel lonely, deserted, uprooted. i wasnt doing a great job - it wasnt like i was the CEO of a major company or a hot celebrity but i was happy doing whatever i was doing. so why did i have to leave everything - my hometown, my job, my friends, my coffee mug? i got married. i like to think myself as a woman of the world . i like maya angelou and toni morrison. i like carrie bradshaw.i think i am a 21st century modern woman who is conscious of the choices that she makes. but what really makes me wonder is was this really my 'choice'? what can i say? i got married. comes with territory. i wash his clothes and when i tell him about it ( a lil bragging harms nobody) pat comes the reply 'dont do it from tomorrow'. ok. he goes to office and gets paid for it. i do all this work at home and there is not even a lil acknowledgement (leave alone appreciation). what can i say? i got married. comes with the territory.but he is not the devil that i make him out to be. he is really nice - takes me out to dinner, gets me chocolates and eats everything that i cook (which is a big relief btw ). so why do i feel like this?

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